Soul Survival - the mystery of intimacy

"We all dream about finding a love with one partner that is lasting. It is possible to have it - you just need to believe that it is. But intimacy with another person starts with you and your relationship with yourself. So it may be you that's the mystery - not love!"

I'd like to start off with a quote: "Being single is best, but everyone wants to fall in love." -Andy Warhol, Love Love Love. If there is anyone that disagrees with either quotes that have been stated, I would like to know why. Seriously - everyone wants to be loved whether it's by their husband/wife, girlfriend/boyfriend, pet, friends, family, coworkers, God, etc. We all want to feel the happiness and joy that love brings to us every single day. More so, we are all looking and waiting for that particular person to share the rest of our lives with. And like I said in my previous post and it was stated in this quote today, "...you just need to believe that it is." 

There is a particular song that comes to mind when I think of how I need to love myself and who I am before I can love another individual. It's "Broken" from Lifehouse - here is a chunk of this song that gets to me everytime: 

She said "If we're gonna make this work
You gotta let me inside even though it hurts
Don't hide the broken parts that I need to see"
She said "Like it or not it's the way it's gotta be
You gotta love yourself if you can ever love me"

If we choose to get in a serious, intimate relationship with another person, and we don't love ourselves, the relationship will slowly diminish. We can't think that someone else loving us will give us the strength that we need. We have to find it in ourselves to accept who we are as a person and love the things that we have to offer. Sure - there will always be things we want to change about ourselves. That's a given. But, it's the things that give us strength, happiness and motivation that we need to focus on. These particular things will provide love to ourselves. 

We are all put on this Earth for a particular reason - sometimes more than one reason. Some people live their whole lives trying to figure out that reason and are in constant battle and in need of reassurance. Live your life to the fullest and do what makes you happy. If we're let down by some miraculous reason, then find the strength in that "let down" and move forward because it will only get better from there.

Love, rather than another person, completes us. And the role of ever lasting love in our lives reveals our highest potential to ourselves and the world. We need to grow within ourselves. Every time we connect with someone we have an opportunity to grow, by learning to love or at least demonstrate that we'd like to try. Growth comes through relationships with parents, friends, an intimate partner, God - but especially with ourselves. Our relationship with ourselves is the one relationship that truly is long term, the one that survives until the end, and it will probably be the most intimate relationship we will ever have.